With everything that is going on in the world today, now is the time to practice self kindness. Self kindness is when you can develop and maintain care for your well-being and work to comfort yourself. This means that we accept our flaws and feel good about ourselves. In order to continue to practice self kindness we need to develop tools for ourselves to support the life we lead even when the going gets hard.
I have been thinking a lot about self kindness during this time that many of us are staying home during the Covid-19 pandemic. Some of us are staying home alone (or with some furry family members). Others of us are sharing our homes with people that are a part of your everyday life. No matter how many people you are around, and how many roles you are now trying to maintain, we have to take time for ourselves and our own well-being in this stressful time.
I’m finding that I keep beating myself up because I should be accomplishing more than I currently am. I have oodles of hobbies and 101 things that I can be working on, but some days I’m having a really hard time concentrating and starting new projects. I’m home and our local library has opened up their Ancestry subscription so I could use it at home with my library card. Rock On! Now is the time to get working on my family history and tracking down leads that I’ve been look for. Yet, I find myself reading a book because curling up in a blanket feels better right now.
I have quilt top that I have been working on, and it’s about 75% done. I should be getting that out and enjoying the creativity of combining colors and patterns to make a piece of art. Hmmm, maybe I’ll watch TV instead. Oops, there is another special news brief and the news is getting harder to handle. Forget the quilt, I need to stand by for updates so I keep watching TV.
Can you relate to any of these feelings, or levels of energy? So I decided to look up 7 things that I could do to practice self kindness, and I’d like to share my findings wityh you.
- Watch your self critic – This one really hit home with me. I feel like I’m failing at something, because I’m not accomplishing tons of goals that have been waiting for when I had the “time”. So please be gentle with yourself, and tell that self critic of yours that this is new for everyone, and taking some time to process how you feel really is accomplishing somethings very important. If you need time to rest, please take it and don’t feel guilty.
- Crying out loud is OK – Crying is natural and a big stress reliever. Even if this isn’t something that you normally do, give it a try and see if your body has been waiting this this very outlet to make things better. My dog Ripley doesn’t hear me cry very often, so even when I first tried to do this very quietly, she was at my side in two seconds flat. She’s laying her head in my lap and looking up at me questioning what she could do to make things better. I gave her a great big hug, (of course I started crying even harder) and you know what, I started to feel better.
- Eat your favorite food – Chances are you are doing a lot more cooking as we are staying home. Take this time to make a meal that really makes you feel good. Grilled cheese and tomato soup, mac and cheese, meatloaf, mashed potatoes, whatever your favorite is. Here’s an article to help you remember your favorite childhood meals https://designingforplenty.com/enjoy-your-favorite-childhood-meal-again/
- Dress for your self – If you are celebrating being able to lounge in your PJ’s all day – GOOD FOR YOU and take advantage. Maybe a relaxed T-shirt and yoga pants is the perfect wardrobe for you. Or perhaps your mood is calling for you to dress up a little today. Listen to your mind and body and pick some clothes that will make you happy today.
- Laugh Out Loud – Take some time and find an outlet that will get you laughing out loud. Just like crying, laughing is also a very natural process and it has lots of relaxing effects on your body. If you are staying in place with others, remember that laughter is contagious and make use of that way to bring everyone together in a positive way.
- Disconnect – If the news is getting you down, turn it off for a while. If technology is driving you crazy (why do all our electronics start acting up when there is no “help desk’ to call!?!) turn it off and head outside for a while. Need some time to yourself? Tell everyone your taking a bath and enjoy some time just for you. You get the idea.
- Drink plenty of water – We have new routines right now, so don’t forget to keep yourself hydrated. Drinking water will have your body acting at it’s best.
Are there any other ideas for self kindness that you would like to share? Please let us know in the comments below. Now is the time to practice self kindness and we are all in this together. I’m sending best wishes to all of you for staying safe and staying healthy.