You are hard at work to make a life that is good and comfortable. You have clear ideas of what you want. You have a good road map of how you are going to get there. So why do you feel like you are not making the progress that you want. Let me ask you a hard question, and please take a moment to really think about your answer….Do you believe that you deserve this newly designed life? This isn’t a trick question at all. I hope for each and every one of us, the answer is a resounding YES! But that little voice inside our heads can be intimidating and very harsh to our own well-being. The good news is that if you think that is what is slowing you down, your own self-talk, you can definitely work on that and make inner strength work for you! So let’s talk about some ways that we can all pump up our confidence, and use it to make designing our own life a success.
Things that hurt inner strength
- Perfectionism – If you always seek to be perfect, it’s no wonder that you are afraid to take a bold leap. Trying new things, and taking on new opportunities is the way that we are going to be able to increase our inner strength. So when you start something new, give yourself a very generous space to fail and grow. You can still be a perfectionist, but there is a time and a place for everything. Perfection comes after lots and lots of practice, while you are exploring new ways of living your life, be proud of your accomplishments and celebrate them along the journey.
- Taking Credit – In the role of care-taker or mentor we are very quick to congratulate a job well done. So, when is that last time that you have given yourself credit for a big (or small) accomplishment? Working on that inner strength and quieting the negative self-talk, we NEED to give ourselves credit and reward our accomplishments.
- Expectations – Have you given yourself a realistic set of expectations for your goals? Have you mapped out all the steps that you are going to need to work on? Have you given enough time to accomplish those steps? Have you built in some time between steps so you can make your good changes habits before delving into the next step. Give yourself time to make your journey a success and celebrate your wins.
Now that we have an idea about what we need to work on to build up our inner strength, what should we consider before we start our journey?
Getting Started on Change
- Start now – You’ve heard that old phrase, there’s no better time than the present – and that holds true here. If you want to make a change, commit to doing something about it now. Brainstorm ideas, make a list, mark out days on your calendar to work on your goals, and/or start one small activity that will get your started on your goal.
- Bring your brave self – Pump up that inner strength, and get ready to hit the ground running. No quite ready to say that you have the confidence to get going with the swagger that you were hoping for. Fake it until you make it, has gotten many people to where they are today. Now it’s your turn! Again, you are starting out on a big exciting change, and you are going to fail, or look funny doing something you’ve never tried. Good for you, and I hope you have a lot of fun making discoveries along the way. Keep working on steps and increasing your abilities and before your know it, you’ll be showing everyone how things should be done.
- Build a team – Would you benefit from having a team of SUPPORTING people to help you on your journey. Make sure to include building a team during your planning stages. Let these trusted people know about your goals, your time frames, and be honest about what you are hoping they can do you for along the way. If you are the type of person that prefers to keep big goals a little more quiet until you are close to success, you should find a way that you can have a consistent touch base to keep yourself motivated as well. Perhaps it’s keeping a journal of your journey, or using a camera to document steps. I’ll admit that I blather on and on to my dog about what I did, and whether it was a success or not. She’s a German Shepherd, so she has that attentive head tilt to the side down pat, so I just KNOW that she’s on my side and cheering me along ha ha ha!
I’d love to hear about your ideas for keeping up your inner strength and how you keep things going strong for the big life changes. Please feel free to leave a comment below!
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