It’s December and I bet that your calendar is bursting at the seams. Holiday parties, volunteer shifts, a never-ending errands list and this list goes on and on. Is there going to be enough hours in the days ahead to get it all done? Well, you have control over a lot of that if you’ll give yourself permission to take this holiday at YOUR pace. Every one of us is different, and we need to decide what is going to be something that we can handle and make it though to New Years with a smile on our faces, instead of feeling like we are going to drop from exhaustion.
Holiday parties are something that I feel are something that you should be really honest with yourself. Some people are energized by parties. Socializing with people, eating new appetizers, dressing up in a smashing holiday outfit add up to a great night out. If this describes you – go ahead and schedule those parties into your calendar knowing that the outcome will give you the holiday spirit and build the energy for the rest of the month. If on the other hand you are more like me maybe holiday parties are the exact opposite for you. Instead of giving you uplifting energy they seem to create more anxiety and take up more planning time because you are rehearsing ways to “fit in”. Give yourself permission to prioritize the few important parties to accept and go ahead and decline the rest. Maybe scheduling more one-on-one outings will be more comfortable to you, even if it’s after the holidays.
If you are more of an introvert it is also okay to schedule some extra alone time that you need to build up your holiday energy. I love reading and I have a weakness for holiday stories at this time of year where I can believe that every story deserves a happy ending. So I’m scheduling extra time at night to read more before I go to bed. Making a great cup of hot chocolate and curling up with a great book that, for me, is time well spent. If you are more of an extrovert think about throwing your own parties in addition to accepting invitations. The time spent on preparations for could make your holidays sparkle.
If you are trying to juggle a family schedule with a mix of different priorities and preferences, go ahead and find a way to make it fair. Each person gets to set their most important events and share them with everyone for consideration. Then set up a family schedule that has enough time for everyone to get what they need out of the holidays. You might be surprised by how much overlap there can be. Going for a car ride to look at the neighborhood lights, while playing or singing holiday songs could hit on several people’s wish lists. Or a special night to see a theater performance could get the whole family dressed up and ready to make memories.
There are no right or wrong answers here. Just be true to yourself and your loved one to make this a happy, healthy and joyous holiday season.
Best Holidays wishes to you all!